The solution to most problems we encounter when gardening is to find someone with the experience and knowledge to ask the question.   I’m very fortunate in having access to nearly 50 years of my own experience, but all of my mother’s as well.  Both her father and father-in-law were incredibly accomplished gardeners and in one of my occasional chats with her I get to share her philosophy and thoughts on gardening where I learnt to my surprise about her own wedding flowers.